“Put away the old self of your former way of life, corrupted through deceitful desires, and be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and put on the new self, created in God’s way in righteousness and holiness of truth” (Ephesians 4: 22-24).

Last month, I made a life-changing decision. 

It was one of the most difficult I have ever made. But after an incredibly challenging year, I felt broken. Every day felt like a trench I could not climb out of. My dilemma consumed my thoughts and made me absent. My confidence was shot. I decided taking some time off would fix me, because so much of my identity and my self-worth were tied up in my predicament. I knew I could not keep going like that.

This decision gave me all the space I needed to heal, grow, and detach from that way of life. I am so grateful for this space, as it allowed me to spend time outside, try new hobbies, be present with my family, cook with intention, and just be. While it was a difficult time for so many reasons, I still would not change it. I needed it. It has taken me some time to process it enough to even write about, but I am ready now.

In case you’ve ever asked yourself similar questions about self-worth and productivity, you are not alone. If you’re feeling stuck, here are some signs that could be telling you whether it’s time for a break…. or not.

• You routinely experience anxiety at the start of your day.

• You have achieved all the goals you had set for yourself in that environment.

• You have stopped growing (professionally and personally) in that environment.

• The environment and culture no longer aligns with your values.

A Wake-up Call

Making a big life decision can undoubtedly be a wake-up call that leaves you feeling overwhelmed and unsure of where to begin. Whether it’s deciding to change careers, move to a new city, or pursue a long-held dream, the process of making a significant life change requires careful consideration and thoughtful planning. Below are some key steps involved in making a big life decision, drawing from Biblical teachings to offer guidance and support.

1. Identify the Problem

When faced with a big life decision, it's easy to feel overwhelmed. The weight of the decision can seem insurmountable, leaving you feeling stuck and unsure of what to do. The first step is to identify the problem that needs solving.

What is it that you want to change or achieve? Is it a career goal, a personal dream, or a lifestyle change? What is driving this desire for change, and how does it align with your values and beliefs? Once you have identified the problem, it's essential to take the time to reflect on your motives and desires.

2. Take Action Through Prayer

Once you have identified the problem and reflected on your motivations, it's time to take action. Explore the potential consequences of making a change, as well as the potential consequences of staying the course. What are the risks and benefits of each option? What impact will your decision have on your life, your relationships, and your future?

This process can be emotionally charged, as it forces you to confront your fears and insecurities. It's important to take the time to pray and reflect on these feelings, seeking comfort and guidance from God. In Philippians 4:6, we are reminded to “have no anxiety at all, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God.”

So, take some time to stop, sit still, and pray. Ask God to reveal his will for your life and to help you make the right decision. You may be surprised at the clarity and peace that comes from taking this step.

3. Seek Guidance

Once you have explored the potential consequences of making a change, it's time to consider potential solutions. This step may involve researching new opportunities, seeking advice from trusted friends or mentors, or consulting with professionals in your chosen field. It's important to remain open-minded and flexible during this process, as unexpected opportunities or challenges may arise.

When seeking guidance, however, be sure to choose individuals who have your best interests at heart and who share your values and beliefs. Also, seeking guidance should not be viewed as a sign of weakness but, rather, a sign of humility. Proverbs 11:14 says, “For lack of guidance a people falls; security lies in many counselors.” This passage reminds us that seeking guidance can lead to success.

4. Find Peace in the Decision

By breaking the decision down into smaller steps, you can find peace in the process. Remember also that the decision you make is not set in stone. You can always adjust course if necessary. Trust in God’s plan for your life, and have faith that he will guide you in the right direction. As it says in Proverbs 16:9, “The human heart plans the way, but the Lord directs the steps.” Then, you will be able to see what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will for your life.

Shivonne Sant-Solomon is a wife and mother of two, blessed with the responsibility of raising them in this dynamic world! In all of her work, and in her most important roles as mother and wife, her relationship with God has been and continues to be central, as she is first and foremost a child of God. Over the past 19 years, Shivonne has had the opportunity to work in a variety of commercial roles within the energy industry, as well as assuming the role of a stay-at-home mother to her then-younger kids for three years—a transformational experience indeed, and one where the challenges and due respect are saluted and applauded. As Shivonne continues along her spiritual and professional growth and development paths, she seeks out opportunities to share her faith and contribute and support the achievement of the world’s energy transition goals in caring for God’s creation.