Do You Know Your Worth?
I remember the first time I heard the phrase “know your worth.” It was decades ago while I was watching the movie “The Joy Luck Club” with my mom. In the film, a mother is referring to her daughter's relationship choices and how she has allowed herself to be treated—especially within her marriage.
Fast-forward to today, when I have a family and business of my own, and I get it. What does it mean to know your worth? It means knowing who and whose you are.
Considering Your Legacy
If knowing your worth is a struggle for you, I encourage you to take some time to ponder the bigger picture. What will your legacy be? If that question feels like a little too much to answer right now, consider that understanding your legacy (you could also call it your “why” or your purpose or your mission) now will help you build healthy boundaries and find more freedom—both in spirit and in actual time.
Legacy is about the impact you have in the world. It’s not a physical inheritance; it's spiritual. What gifts do you offer the world? What will you be known for after you’re gone? Why do you do what you do? If you’re wishy-washy on this point, you may find yourself playing comparison games and unable to see things through to completion.
If you want to solidify this idea, one exercise to try is to reflect on some of the reasons people usually thank you. You’ll most likely find a theme that will give you some clarity.
Finding Freedom
You'll find freedom in living your legacy now. When you live life on purpose, you gain clarity on what doesn’t serve you or your legacy. You also understand how you can best serve others. It means you can start saying “no” and being OK with it. It means you can start building boundaries around your time.
When you start creating boundaries around how you will show up in your personal life and business life, you’ll find more time in your day, because you’re committing to what matters. Time is your most precious resource, because once it’s gone, that’s it. So, don’t waste it.
If you’re a person who says “yes” to everything, next time someone asks you to commit to something, pause. Then, ask yourself, “Is this bringing me closer to or further from the life I want to build?”
Knowing your worth does take some digging, but in both my personal experience and the experience of my clients, it will help you lessen overwhelm, drop the comparison games, and serve well. And this all adds up to peace of mind.
Liz Montigny is a licensed Ziglar Life Coach for Catholic working moms who want to drop the hustle for hope so they can truly live their dreams. She lives with her husband and their three boys in Massachusetts where she homeschools, likes to relax with a cup of tea, and enjoys talking about non toxic living and building her theatre ministry. You can connect with her at lizmontignycoaching.com.