Humility: A Virtue Fix for Imposter Syndrome
“Humility drives away Satan and keeps the graces and gifts of the Holy spirit safe within us” (St. Francis de Sales, Introduction to the Devout Life).
Most of us have suffered from imposter syndrome—the fear that we’re not up to the job and if people find out they will laugh at us, and fire us, and then we’ll die.
(Like the first day on the job when I had to ask my staff how to turn the copy machine on …)
Well, there’s a virtue for that! Here are three ways humility helps ease imposter syndrome:
No. 3: Own Your Deficits
Fearlessly looking at our strengths and weaknesses gives us the clarity to be open about what we’re not so great at doing. For example, I’m a word person, not a number person, and one of my first jobs was as an assistant in a photo studio. This job included adding up the daily checks and cash and making sure that number jibed with the receipt book.
I felt bad that the two hardly ever matched. With more humility, I could have told my managers that because I had never successfully balanced a checkbook, they may want to give that task to someone else.
No. 2: Ask for Help
Years later, as director of a government office, I had an employee in her 30s who was like a petulant teenager. I had run out of ideas and went to my supervisor for guidance. Familiar enough with the benefits of humility by then, I knew that asking my boss for help would come across as a strength, not a weakness, because I was putting the good of the office first and my ego last.
It’s liberating to be straight about our deficits and trust other team members to have our back. There’s no hiding, no fear of being found out. We can then bring more confidence to doing what we’re good at, which encourages the rest of the team to do the same.
No. 1: Work From Your Strengths
If we help build a culture in which it’s OK to admit our weaknesses and to receive training for it or assign it to another team member, the benefits are huge. There’s less shame, more productivity, and more worker engagement—because people can be successful—which leads to greater employee retention.
Humility to the Rescue
Tom Monaghan, founder of Domino’s Pizza, once said, “I believe the most important trait of a good leader is humility.”
A man who reported to Monaghan for 10 years explained how this virtue showed up in his boss’s leadership: “For all his accomplishments, Tom is unmistakably humble. In demeanor he is soft spoken and polite. In leading meetings he’s Socratic, asking more questions than giving direction.”
There is power in a billionaire founder walking into a meeting with the attitude that he’ll find his best solutions from people in the room!
Monaghan’s employee went on to say, “He is humble in self-disclosure, often quite spontaneously. I was initially surprised at this. He had a habit of citing a personal shortcoming or failure, sometimes very nonchalantly.”
Tom Monaghan is an incredibly successful entrepreneur. If he doesn’t have imposter syndrome, it’s likely at least in part because he is open about his mistakes and deficits, and he relied on his team to come up with great solutions—which allowed him to work from his strengths. By doing so, he set the kind of example that makes for a flourishing office culture.
After all, our humility is rooted in the great glory we enjoy as baptized daughters of God and in our destiny in Heaven.
In relation to that glory, everything else is small stuff.
Rose Folsom helps Catholic professionals have a closer connection with God in prayer that brings more clarity and confidence to their leadership. Sign up for her free live webinar, “Lead with Confidence: 3 Virtues All Professionals Need,” here. Following 30 years as a solopreneur, Rose served as Director of offices in the White House and elsewhere. After building up her prayer life from zero after her conversion and then profession as a Lay Dominican, she’s passionate about helping others discover how to connect with God in a way that feels intimate, joyful, and natural to them.